I can’t believe it’s December 20th already! Isaac is 12 weeks today, time is flying by! Our days are mostly spent eating, playing, him sleeping and me catching up around the house. We’ve settled into a nice routine…it’s nothing I did, it kind of happened automatically.
After Isaac was born I started reading The Happiest Baby on the Block, which I’ve mentioned before. I loved this book because the techniques can help any parent regardless of their parenting style. My parenting style is me asking myself “What can I do to meet Isaac’s needs?” I’m more attachment parenting but not too rigid in the sense. I like to wear Isaac in a wrap when the time calls for it, I don’t let him cry it out, he’s been known to sleep in the bed, I breast feed, and I love to snuggle on him all day long. You can read more about AP here. I think all parents, no matter what their parenting style is, uses parts of AP in their raising of children.
I’ve also read a few other books, and have read some parenting blogs which have just cause anxiousness or doubt. These books act as guidelines on putting your baby on a schedule, establishing certain rituals and routines…this is not me. I’ve always been very impulsive and that’s how I am in my parenting, but it’s led by Isaac. I can tell when he’s hungry, sleepy, and so forth. I don’t leave the house unless he’s fed and changed. This is not to say there is no rhyme or reason to our day, but more what does Isaac need in this moment, right now? Not, oh it’s 8:00 he needs a bath, a book, and cuddles. We’re not always home at 8PM on a weekend night so what do we do? We adapt. So far so good.
I’ve also found a ton of comfort in friends who have the same approach or have had the same anxieties. This past weekend at cooking club my girlfriend said she wished she wouldn’t have read the books. It too made her feel she was not a good enough mother for not putting her daughter on a schedule. One of my closest friends just said she still doesn’t let her 15 month old little boy cry it out. Many of my “mom friends” keep telling me, every baby is different, you know what he needs. And you know what? They’re right. As a mom, I don’t ever think I’ll feel like I’m doing enough, but I always feel like I love him just right.